When you are seen.

The “I see you” is a compliment of the highest placement in our human condition.

“Being seen” refers to feeling recognized and valued for your true self, fulfilling a basic human need for connection and belonging. It involves acknowledgment through validation and support, the complete opposite of invisibility or neglect.

Recently I posted a short video of the tree in our front yard. It seems that ever since we moved there, this tree has had an every-other-year burst of just the most beautiful fall color change I have ever seen in a tree. She is a Japanese Maple tree I believe.  Her reds are just gorgeous, and in the summer, she is equally beautiful. I sit on the porch a lot and look at her.  I watch the birds go from limb to limb.  It’s a whole thing.

Under the video a few days later in the comment section, a friend that lives away from me posted a picture of a beautiful red tree she saw where she lives. No words, just the tree photo.  What that meant was, in that moment, she thought of me, my tree, and she saw me.

                                                                         

We have one of those bird cams hanging in our yard.  I cannot tell you the endless joy this has brought.  As one does, I post videos from the footage all the time!  I am absolutely enamored by this!   Sometimes, I even get a touch of guilt that I am seeing these beautiful creatures so up close, like I am ruining all their secrets. One day I opened a social media app and found that I was tagged in a video by another friend, who lives away from me.  I checked and it was a bird related video.  She typed under her tag that she never sees a bird video without thinking of me.  I watched the video, with a tear welling up, because in that moment I was seen. Thought of, and appreciated.

                                                                       

There are plenty of times we feel invisible. We feel that we are not being heard. Which leads to a lot of inner dialogue that can be pretty self-defeating. This is definitely a lonely and isolating moment.

One of the things we must understand is that every single one of us is valuable. We are valuable without any outside validation. We are all worthy.  YOU are worthy.

If you do not feel seen or heard or even understood – do all of those things for yourself!  Know who you are, what you feel, and tell yourself how beautiful and wonderful and worthy you are. Every. Single. Day.  All day if you want.

Each day, look in the mirror, and say your name with authority.  Your full name.  Speak into the universe that you are worthy.  There will be people that speak our name.  Whether it is good or bad, you can create the energy that whenever and wherever you name is spoken, that energy comes back to you in power and positive and beautiful – just like you.

I will give you a key as well.  If in a moment you see something that reminds you of someone, TELL THEM.  Two things happen.  They are seen, and you are completely understood and seen in that moment.

Today, may you feel seen, worthy, and valuable. Because all of that is truth.

Peace,

Cathy